Thanks a lot for sharing your opinion! Indeed Yaldar isn’t all monstrous. I’ll leave it to the story to show more of the different opinions the characters have about Yaldar.
And just as you said, his ways suck.
Your message fits perfectly with what I said about people reacting differently to same situation;
Two different boys from different families were neglected, one broke a person because of it, the other saved that person through it.