At first I was so uptight and angry then gradually it mattered less and less and I accepted that, as my friend luci likes to say; “it’s out of love for the characters not an attempt to change them”
While I feel those who intensely ship it are missing a big part of the whole message behind the story, not to mention it’s going to be the slowest burn ever lol, I am learning to take it all with love.
My discomfort honestly doesn’t come from me as a creator. Ever since I was a little kid, I took stories seriously and the word of the author was THE word. I still don’t understand and sometimes am annoyed by shipping that isn’t canon in every fandom I’m in. Like WHY would you ship two opposing enemies…? I’m just too serious lol, but I’m becoming more flexible.
Visually, it might be a bit tougher to get over. There is something that ruins the character for me when seen in intimate situations or… less clothing than usual.
thankfully it’s been 8 years and I haven’t seen any fanart other than the softest BL. And besides one comment (on smackjeeves of course) that used the most graphic description, I’ve been lucky with the shippers. (or as one of my friends like to say “submariners”)